The best parenting tip is that there are no tips. The fact is that every child is different and will experience life differently depending on his/her physical environment, social environment, biological makeup, genetic traits, physiological traits, their level of understanding, and their learning abilities.
Most parents are quite concerned about how their children need to behave or what they need to do in order to fit the description of a “normal behavior.” However, the fact is that we must focus on ourselves and ensure that we are in the right state of mind to deal with the emotional roller coaster that our children are bound to go through.
Using myself as an example, it has been chaos in my home over the past few days. My two boys have been fighting, screaming, misbehaving, not listening and throwing every household item you can imagine. I tried all the tactics that I could think of;removing their screen time, then giving them screen time, giving them a time out, yelling back, explaining and coaching. However, I found nothing to be effective in changing their behavior. They eventually always resulted to the same “bad behaviors.” As I tried to understand the situation, I came to the realization that in the lime light of the havoc I was not in the right mind set to apply any patience, tolerance or understanding to their “normal” emotional reactions of new experiences.
Due to a recent life changing event, my mind has been sitting in anxiety, fear and worry. This in turn, has directly affected how I perceived and handled my children. As soon as I worked through my physiological health barriers and found the root causes that made me feel anxious, fear and worry, I was better able to parent my children. Therefore, helping them grow through an emotional learning period.
If you are a parent who is overwhelmed with life and your kids’ behaviors, I highly suggest that you give us a call and try our Life Coaching services. We help our clients work through their psychological barriers and achieve optimal wellness.
Just like the instructions for an airplane safety mask, we must help ourselves before we can help others!
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