Looking to improve YOUR life? Then seek out the areas within you that need improving NOT in others!
First thing to realize in life is that we do not have the power to change anyone. We only have the power to change self.
As people present us with challenges, we typically get stuck looking only at their part and miss the opportunities for our own growth.
In-order to learn and grow in life, which is the essential requirement for true success, we must experience humility by seeing our own faults/part in the matter. This does not mean that we become a floor mat for people to walk all over. When required, we do create healthy positive barriers.
Today was a great example. I had the pleasure of watching my two kids play (4 & 8yr old boys) at the playground as “mom” took a break.
The kids were playing fine until my youngest came to me crying hysterically, telling me that his younger brother had pushed him down the slide and he got hurt. He was convinced that his brother had hurt him.
I huddled the two in and out broke a verbal fight. Both argued the fault of the other. As a guy, it did take me a little longer than normal to calm them down lol but I eventually did.
What I learnt was that my youngest had “BLAMED” my eldest for his pain and suffering. He stated that the eldest had pushed him down the slide where he fell and got hurt. However, when asked the eldest, he reports that he had pushed his brother down the slide but was not the time that he got hurt.
As per the eldest, “he went down the slide fine, got up, turned around and the tried walking up the slide. As he attempted to walk up the slide, he slipped and fell on his own. The miracle happened when my youngest had “saw his part” and apologized to the eldest for blaming him.
In conclusion, I taught him not to walk up a slide which became the teaching. When he decides to take that teaching and implement it into his life, he will experience “GROWTH.”
If I had not followed through with my youngest, he would have been conditioned to always “BLAME” others for his own downfalls.